This post marks the first of what I think will probably end up as a series of posts about internet dating. I’ve written about it before here, but I’ve recently joined free dating site Plenty of Fish and it’s a bit of a different ball game to Match.com. Thus, here starts my social experiment in to the world of online dating.
Here’s my profile…
It’s been getting some interesting comments and seems to be working quite well. I got a mass influx of messages within the first hours of joining. These have somewhat abated since, but I still get a consistent flow of potential suitors.
So, how does this differ from Match? For a start, it’s free. There are upgradable options that come at a cost, but the functionality is sufficient to find and organise a date without paying anything. This does slightly alter the clientele. Now, commonly, people don’t value things they get for free, but with POF you do have to invest time in it. The more time you invest constructing your profile and crafting messages, the better a response you’re likely to get.Though, if you’re paying to do this, I think most people would spend a little more time on their communications.
You get a lot of the same people that you get on Match, who have made an effort, but because of the lower barriers to participation, you get a lot of people with lazy profiles, old photos and camera phone images. [Yawn].
I don’t know if this is always the case, but as a woman, I’ve hardly sent any messages as I’ve been wading through the ones that have been sent to me. If you play at this game, you’ll start to see patterns emerging and it’s very easy to eliminate certain players.
Over the next few weeks, I’ll give you some insight in to
- The types of messages you’ll get and how to respond
- Catching the interest of someone you like
- How long to wait before organising a date
- Staying safe on your date (with the cunning use of technology, plus some old fashioned rules)
- Plus, some ‘reviews’ of the dates I’ve been on
Yes ladies and gentlemen, I am open to questions on all things internet dating related. Need advice, email me on firstname.lastname@example.org, tweet me @Pose83 or leave a comment.