You’ve got to have some rules of response on PlentyOfFish. You’re going to get a lot of rubbish, so setting out your own guidelines means you can just delete messages and block people, tut and remark to yourself “they should have known better” if that’s the path you choose. Don’t divulge your rules, you know, just have them for yourself.
Mine are as follows:
1. Everyone Deserves A Response
This isn’t technically true. Some people would have made a better impression if they just sent a happy doodle of an owl, but for now, it’s my rule. So whether it’s an essay or just an emoticon, you’ll get something from me. There are no clauses about tact as part of this rule though, sadly for some.
2. Teach & Educate
People are on this site to find love (or attention or sex). I feel it is my duty to let them know where they are going wrong. Whether they admit it or not, some people will take your advice and we can all go away a little enriched from the experience.
3. No Kisses…
…Unless I’d actually give you a kiss. I’m not massively tactile, so a peck on the cheek is a little too intimate for me with someone I don’t know.
4. I Will Not Add You On Facebook
I tell men I won’t add them on Facebook because I work in Social Media, but really it’s because I just don’t want to. It’s odd to add prospective dates, it’s too intimate and there are things on there that a potential match should just not see prior to meeting.
…If you send me a picture of your penis, rule 1 still applies and I will be disparaging of it. I told one guy that his looked sad and dusty.